I am developing my massage technique more than 8 years ago.
My basic massage is the combination of the Japanese yumeiho and the Swedish massage.
I am excited to be offering a unique style of integrated massage, the hybrid technique of the east and the west, to maximize the many positive effects of the therapy, for relaxation and balancing.
I improve our session with therapeutic massage strokes, it depends on physical needs. You will be encouraged to drink extra water in the days following your appointment which can help carry away toxins released from your soft tissues during the massage. Of course mineral water will be provided to you at the appointment.
In an effort to make your first massage with me a positive foundation for a long and rewarding relationship with bodywork, I make the following promises to you:
I will update this web site with useful information so that you may stay informed and up to date about my practice.
I know that your time is important to you and that you have a lot going on in your life. With this in mind, I promise that our sessions will start exactly on time.
You will never be met with another person at my place.
I will never work when symptoms contraindicated by massage are present.
Together, we can design your session in e-mail, to honor the uniqueness of your being, including the focus of the session, the style of bodywork to employ, depth of the massage (do you like a light touch or more deep bodywork?), and any other special needs you may have.
About the lingam massage
Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil, or water-based lubricant, on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take your time. You are giving a massage to an often neglected area of the body. Massage the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull UP and slide off and then alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of the Lingam/penis and then sliding DOWN and off. Again, alternate with right and left hands. Massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using an orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is said many ailments can be cured by receiving a good Lingam Massage.
NOTE: The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and Softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. Remember, the goal is not orgasm in and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life. Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There are two ways to do this. One is by finding the spot midway between the testicles and anus. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may be intensely painful at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand. Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. It is aptly named the Million Dollar Point in Taoism. The other way to access the Sacred Spot is through the anus. Many men, especially heterosexual men, are uncomfortable at first as a result of negative sexual conditioning. Be careful here and use lubrication. The key is to go slow and be very gentle. Make sure he is breathing as you slip a finger from your left hand into the anus about an inch or so. Then crook the finger back in a "come here" gesture. You will feel the prostate gland. Vary the pressure and speed of massage. He may want stimulation of the Lingam as you massage the Sacred Spot. Back off on the Lingam as he approaches orgasm and increase the pressure on the Sacred Spot. Sometimes the man may have strong emotions come up during access to the Sacred Spot. He may cry and remember a traumatic event from his past. You, the giver, are in a place of trust and intimacy. Allow him to feel his emotions and be very loving, not trying to console or fix him, just let him feel whatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream, cry, moan, sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the best friend and healer he could have in that moment.
Ending the massage
If he chooses to let go and ejaculate, encourage him to breathe deeply during the orgasm. It will blow his mind, especially if he has come close and held back at least SIX times before ejaculating. Holding back six times charges up the sexual battery with tremendous energy. It is then his choice as to where he wants to send this energy out with the ejaculate (the prevailing paradigm) or inward for other uses (men who master ejaculation are able to channel this energy into other areas of their being).
About the yoni massage
The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function to the male's glans, but surprisingly - up to four times more sensitive. The glans portion of the clitoris holds 6,000 - 8,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other structure in the human body. This hypersensitive node has only one purpose: pleasure. Nothing exceeds its ability to receive & transmit sensations of touch, pressure or vibration. The glans are "crown jewel" of the clitoral system! Stroke the clitoris with clockwise & counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb & index fingers. Do this as a massage & not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to relax & breathe. Slowly & with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra). Very gently explore & massage the inside of the Yoni with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, & feel up, down & sideways. Vary the depth, speed & pressure. It is important to remember that this is a massage in which you are nurturing & relaxing the Yoni. With your palm facing up, & the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a "come here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, "The Sacred Spot". She may feel the need to urinate, experience a little discomfort or most hopefully pleasure. Vary the pressure, speed & pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back & forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your middle finger & pinky.
Most women should have no problem & will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time & be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well. An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert the pinky of the right hand into her anus. [In Tantra, it is said that when your pinky is gently massaging her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her Yoni & your thumb on her clitoris, "You are holding one of the mysteries of the universe in your hand." You can use your left hand to massage her breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use the thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of the hand resting on & massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right & left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. Continue massaging, using varying speed, pressure & motion, all the while continuing to breathe deeply & looking into each other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up & may cry. Just keep breathing & be gentle. Some women have been sexually abused & need to be healed. A giving, loving & patient partner can be of immeasurable value to her. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, & continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave."
In ending the massage, slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to relax & enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be greatly enriched & you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.